So basically we needed to switch the server to cracked, because 1 friend had a cracked account, but then everyone who previously played with a...
yeah, i had to install luckperms, and added that command as well as essentials.home.bed and it's working now.
Basically, so you wouldn't be able to set your home anywhere, but would only be allowed 1 home at your bed, so it auto sets it when you sleep in...
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